Friday, October 9, 2015

That’s My Dream

Hi everybody!!! This blog will allow you into my personal space that has been very dear to my heart because it has been orchestrated by God every step of the way. I pray my testimony encourages, inspires and uplifts single men and women that are patiently waiting on God’s best for their lives. God has been so good to me that I have unspeakable joy! Welcome to my dream!

Chasing after God
Alright Now! When we are single we often times wonder how long will we have to wait for the perfect mate. Well my story was I dated before and things never worked out right because that wasn’t the plan that God had for me. So God spoke to me and told me to “Trust him, Trust him” When God spoke to me I knew exactly what he meant, he wanted me to trust him with all areas of my life. So I stepped out on faith and surrendered to God’s will and way. Did I go looking for love? Yes, I did!

I went looking for the love of Jesus Christ. I fell in love with Jesus and discovered that he was already in love with me. I was on fire for the Lord and I was eager to seek his will for my life. I wasn’t perfect during this season but I remained faithful to the Lord. God started to pull back layers and layers of wounds that had never been healed. Self-improvement was in full effect because God was at work in my life. He was pruning, purging and preparing me for my future.

Single Me, Enjoying Life

God was the head of my life and I was seeking him daily for counsel because I know he cared for me. Chasing after God in that season was amazing! I was growing deeper in God’s word and becoming spiritually mature. I became a better woman of God, mother, daughter, sister, and a friend because God was working in my life. My life as a single woman was a ministry to many others around me.

Webinar Confirmation
Just a little background info! Recently I attended a webinar that talked about the “5 Stages of a Relationship Done God’s Way” and this was confirmation that God was still in full control of my destiny. Before I start the next part of my dream, I wanted to let you know that when I mention the name CJ that is my God-fearing man that God has blessed with me. Okay!!! Amen!

Alright, so CJ and I listened to this webinar together. Here are the 5 Stages of A relationship Done God’s Way:

1.       Friendship Stage

Yes!!! CJ and I met at Christian Chapel Temple of Faith (church). He was a ministry leader of Game Changers which is a ministry for young adults between the ages of 18 through 26. I was the ministry leader of the Singles Ministry. The Singles Ministry had Wednesday night bible study at a local Starbucks in the Dallas area, so a group of us would get together and study God’s word. Our focus was growing in the Lord not dating. CJ and I were friends in the body of Christ.

Just Friends

2.       Interest Stage

Interesting! This stage was where I know that God took the scales off my eyes. Although, I was interested in CJ, I still was seeking God for direction. Ladies, Ladies, Ladies! He didn’t know that I liked him and God didn’t allow me to display my emotions. The interest stage was just observing from a distance.

Wednesday Night Bible Study

3.       Pursuing Stage

Should I pursue or not pursue? Of course I should pursue him! I pursued CJ in prayer. I didn’t approach him but I approached the throne of grace asking God to confirm that this was the man that he had for me and that he was my husband. CJ pursued me in the physical. It’s not our place as women to pursue men in the physical realm, period.

One night after Wednesday night bible study we planned that Friday to go dancing as a group. When I arrived at the location it ended up only being CJ and I. I thought this was perfect and I knew that God had his hand on this moment. It was a great night filled with conversation, laughter and dancing.

This is the text that he sent me the next day:

Pursue Text

Epic Night
We talked on the phone and it was established that we had mutual interest in each other. I was so excited after we hung up and started to thank God for everything that was happening in that very moment.  Then of course I called to share with others about the goodness of the Lord and what he had done for me.

4.       Courting Stage

Whew!! This stage has been awesome! Why? Because for the first time in my life I am courting with the  purpose of one day being married to this man. I knew before we had hung out one on one that he was my husband. God had spoken to me at a live gospel recording “It’s him, It’s him” This stage for us has been truly a blessing. We are keeping Christ first in our lives! We know that we serve a jealous God. We always give honor and glory to God for bringing us together! All the glory belongs to God!

9/25/15 Birthday Dinner
5.       Engaged Stage

Well! This story is unavailable at the moment. Stay tuned!!!

Encouragement Corner

Let God write your love story! Chase after God and seek him first in all that you do. He will direct your path and give you the desires of your heart according to his will and way for your life. This has been a mind blowing experience for me. Everything that I dreamed about and more as come to pass. Amen! Praise God!


  1. The Lord led my husband and I together 46 years ago and, after 44 years of marriage, he is still my best friend and heartthrob.

    We, too, began as friends. We both were interested in math and science and studied together. After a couple years that friendship turned into love.

    God is good. His love supersedes human love and the love He leads us to is perfect for us.

    Beautiful post, Calandra!

    1. To God be the glory and thank you for sharing your testimony with me. It has inspired me on this day to know that God is still in the blessing business. May God continue to bless your marriage!!!

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    2. Yes!!! To God be all the glory, honor and praise!

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